Who is a true lover?

These days after so many failed relationships and heartbreaks, I have come to realize that true love is not a myth but finding a true lover shares the same odds as finding a live unicorn. Evaluated experience they say is the best teacher, so here's what evaluated experience has taught me. We all want someone we can count on to stand by us through thick and thin. This is the lover who matters. Most people think being a good lover is about being able to perform sexual feats with great skill and sensitivity.(That would be fine if we spent all our lives in bed.) But the truth of the matter is a true lover does not start or end in the bedroom. A true lover is the one who stays when all others have walked away. Its does not matter if he is as agile as a leopard or she is as sensitive as a frayed nerve ending. If they don't love you with their hearts, stroking your body and teasing your senses will soon become meaningless. Loving the body is not enough, your mind and spirit need to be cared for too. Who cares if your man is built like an Adonis or your woman the personification of Aphrodite, if they don't stand by you in a storm? His twinkling eyes and her sensous lips mean nothing if they don't prove to be reliable in a crisis. My friend, being a good lover is more than hips, lips and fingertips. It is standing by the bed until the light goes out in my eyes and you kiss my forehead one final time. It is the ability to stick with me through the frustration of finding a job, numerous disappointments from friends and family until the machine stops and the ventilator ceases to pump air into my lungs, and I speak one last time or squeeze your hand. A true lover is a lover of the day, not just the night. Unfortunately, lovers that deal with the day are more difficult to find than the kind that grope for your body at night.